Gastric Bypass surgery

I want the control back.. I once had over my body. My metabolism seems to have stalled in mid stream. I can’t lost much if I do. Now.. I am totally.. out of shape. I have bad knees due to a car accident and too over weight to run. I care for a mother who demands a lot and had lung cancer. I am in my mid forties. I have made some great progress towards a long term goal I want to achieve in becoming a writer/illustrator. However.. I keep telling myself .. once I am Published.. I can then.. afford a trainer.. a gym membership and Jenny Craig. I tried cutting down.. and not much helps. I didn’t want to have lap band surgery..But.. I am running out of choices. I joined a gym a while back and lost nothing.. became out of breath easily.. and ended up quitting. Now.. my mom is sick and I have a dog who needs medication. I can’t afford to go to a gym.. and my time seems to be consumed with care giving.. attention for my mother.. and dog and my writing. I am not sure what to do.. and I am feeling trapped in my over weight body. I actually had to be honest with myself and admit to hating exercise and anything that breaks me into a sweat and makes me feel like I will have a heart attack and winds me is not fun and I won’t stick with it. I am at a loss here… what to do. My friends sister had Gastric Bypass Surgery.. but.. can no longer eat any sugar at all and has to live on so.. so.. many vitamins. Hopefully…someone can help me out.. Where I am right now.. I need to see 20-30 pounds come off me to motivate me towards something again. I was never ever real thin.. but.. 120 would be nice. I am short. Middle aged. Please Help. I just want some control over my body again. I am a home body.. but.. do go to the malls, stores, market. I do walk the dogs but winter I am unable to and have bad knees. I also have a messed up shoulder all from a prior car accident. I need to do something. I don’t have much room in my apartment or privacy. That is part of the problem. I know my life will change for the better and when finances pick up.. I will be able to afford more choices. But for now.. I am a struggling writer and caregiver which is a job that seems to never get done. I have been collecting unemployment which enables me to write for my future career and also care for my mother whom has cancer. I am struggling right now with a choice to make about when my unemployment runs out. I need to get a job so that I am able to afford an edit. I have a lot on my back.. all on me and no one else in my family wants this burden or help. So.. here I am taking all this on.. when no one is caring about my health or physical condition. Its selfish .. I know. But.. I just want something to change with my body where I can actually see it and then.. I am hoping I can take off again from there. How far I fell.. its hard to get back up. I save my energy for my dog and mother and writing and don’t have much left . Thank You.

I know a person who is a bulemic, morbidly obese, and trying to get approved for gastric bypass. This person is not being completely honest about eating habits with the doctor. I know I cannot control other people’s decisions…but the possible ramifications of this weigh on my heart, what to do?

I am in a VERY bad spot right now.

My wife currently carries the insurance for our family b/c she works for a large company. My company is a very small company that cannot afford to offer medical benefits but a stable company.

My wife is going to have gastric bypass surgery in January. The doctors she wants to use are on a different health plan. She is switching our health insurance to that plan. The problem is that I have a chronic health condition that requires some expensive maintenance treatment every so often. Currently, we pay for a treatment that costs ,000. However, this new plan will require us to pay 20% of the ,000 each time and I must get these treatments about 7 times a year.

Our AGI is 85,000 before taxes. With our current debt, it will be impossible for us to take on 15,000 a year in additional medical bills…20% of 77,000. So, she says that I need to look for a new job. Aside from the fact that my current job brings me great happiness, a reasonable salary, and great flexibility…it doesn’t offer benefits and this job market isn’t the best to look for a job.

So, I am faced with the task of finding another job with a big enough company to take on my health issues insurance wise with a similar salary…in this economy.

Thoughts…suggestions?

I have been having right side abdominal pain for over a year now, and it has progressively gotten worse. When it gets really bad, i also spike a fever. Recently, it has also been having spasms where it "rumbles & vibrates", it almost feels like something is about to explode. the pain is severe, and it is like tearing and throbbing, it’s very hard to explain the sensation. any advice would be greatly appreciated. i have been to many different doctors, and they can find nothing. i also have a history of gastric ulcers and severe food allergies…i don’t know if that has anything to do with this.my bowels are normal. and i eat very healthy (i’m under a dietician). it’s really acting up right now and it also hurts to walk and move or do anything, i have a fever of 101.5. help please. like i said, i have been to many doctors, and have many tests done (most of which were performed a year ago) and everything has come back seemingly normal, but now it’s so much worse. like i feel like im going to throw up i just feel horrible. help! i have been avoiding all of the foods that i am allergic to so i don’t think that that has anything to do with my side pain. i have also get hives/rash when it hurts really bad. they are just red spots that aren’t really raised. i also have poor circulation, and my legs are almost purple, but i’m not overweight at all!
i am a 16 year old female, and i have had sonograms, x-rays, blood work, ct scan. most of which were over a year ago, and it’s getting progressively worse. oh and i’ve also had 2 endoscopys for my gastric ulcers that were caused by food allergies, but since i have kept the offending foods out of my diet, the ulcers have gone away. so, i don’t think that this contributes to my side pain. i really would like to get to the bottom of this, i have some more doctors appointments, but they are giving up as well. i can barely sleep the pain is so bad. i can barely walk, and when i do i walk with a limp cuz i can’t put full pressure on my right leg (same side as the abdominal pain). the pain is like parallel to my belly button under my last rib, but if it was appendecitis, wouldn’t they have found something by now?

I keep seeing pics of people that have lost huge amounts of weight by having the stomach reduced in size by over 90% …